Mike & Cait
Hi, we are Mike and Cait!
Thanks for choosing to read our profile. We hope it gives you some insight into who we are not only as people, but as hopeful adoptive parents as well!
We actually met because we had mutual acquaintances – who happened to be our aunts! And some close friends too. Anyways, one night in 2009, we were both at a party and Mike introduced himself to Cait. He explained the aunt connection and the friend connection, but things didn’t really take off for us at first.
Then, in 2011, we reconnected through an online dating site. We had our first date the day after Christmas at an Ethiopian restaurant, and we talked for hours into the night. After dating for two years, we were married on Cait’s family farm in 2014. Shortly thereafter, Mike began working for Cait’s family business and moved to the family farm.
We have been trying for several years to start our family. We tried fertility treatments for some time, but they really took a toll on us both physically and emotionally. We have also considered adoption for quite awhile, and have now decided to focus solely on growing our family this way. We are so excited to become parents and look forward to sharing our love with a child!
Mike (in Cait’s words)
Mike is kind, caring, and one of the most thoughtful people I have ever met. He is consumed with tending to his immediate surroundings, which on our farm include trees, plants, dirt piles (for work), and animals. He will really make such a great dad one day, as he is so naturally nurturing!
I often find Mike reading books and articles, writing, and wishing he had more reasons to ride his bicycle. Mike loves every opportunity he gets to ride his bicycle, now that it’s not his main form of transportation in the country. A stroll never goes by that he isn’t telling me about the trees and plants that we encounter, and sharing ideas about plants that we could grow.
Mike is snuggly, he’s very creative in the kitchen, and he often plays the guitar. My favorite is when Mike plays songs his father used to play for him when he was younger. I know is going to be a great dad and I can’t wait to see him in that role.
Cait (in Mike’s words)
Cait’s attention to design, detail, and charm keep my life with her exciting. I love the colors and warmth she has put into our home and our life. I am so confident in the personal flare she will put into parenting, and cannot wait to experience this next step with her.
It’s not uncommon to find Cait working on various projects in her journal throughout the day. She’s a really fantastic artist! It is a joy to see someone be so dynamic about journaling. I know journaling and art are activities she looks forward to sharing with a child one day.
I love watching Cait sing and dance to her favorite music. She is a lover of independent punk and pop music. When she isn’t singing and dancing to music, she can also be found behind our piano playing her favorites. Some of my favorite times with Cait are when Cait is singing and playing the piano, and I get to sing backup!
I am a big fan of Cait’s cooking. Our kitchen is always overflowing with fresh fruits and cheeses to snack on and add to our meals. I am looking forward to having family meals featuring Cait’s amazing chili or roast.
Our home – we live on a farm!
We live and work on our family’s farm, where we create soil and compost. Cait’s dad owns a tree company and we both work for him. Mike is the compost facility operator, and Cait is our office manager.
We love our little house. It’s an old stone house built in 1865. It has two bedrooms, an awesome front porch, and endless space to explore outside. All of our beautiful flowers and trees are thanks to Mike, who loves to cultivate native plants. There is tons of space to explore and animals to care for here on the farm. We have chickens, ducks, turkeys and one goat. We also have horse neighbors that we get to see every day.
Though our home has a rural feel, we are really on the edge of the suburbs, and only a ten minute drive from a suburban town. We are excited to raise our family here and have a child experience everything the farm has to offer.
Mike and his sister were raised by their father. Their mother lived in another state, and they didn’t get to see her much. Mike and his sister were very close with their father up until his death in 2005. Additionally, they were very close to their relatives on their father’s side of the family.
While Mike’s sister, Lisa, lives further away in Virginia, they continue to have a close bond. Lisa is really looking forward to adding the title “aunt” to her name. She cannot wait to see us more often when she has a niece or nephew!
Mike has a great relationship with his Aunt Liz and Uncle Vince, in addition to his cousins. Growing up, Mike was very close to his cousins, often getting together for playdates and family gatherings. As adults they continue to see each other often, as they live close by. They still have family get togethers and go to frequent weddings. They too are excited about our journey to grow our family through adoption.
We interact with Cait’s parents on a daily basis, as we live so close and work on the farm together. They are a huge part of our life. Cait’s dad, Pogo, is usually on the farm, gardening, building things, and playing with his border collie, Phoebe. Cait’s mom, Lucinda, is very close with both of us and is so excited to become a grandmother.
Cait and her sister, Normandy, share a close bond. Normandy has always had a love of literature and made that her career when she became an English Professor. To exercise her creative side, Cait’s sister also does side projects in playwriting, and costume design. While Normandy resides in New York City with her husband, the rest of Cait’s family lives locally in Maryland.
We see Cait’s extended family for annual beach vacations and on all holidays, including Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, and all birthday celebrations. This child will be the first grandchild on Cait’s side of the family, so everyone is very excited for us. Cait has many cousins with young children. We feel so lucky to have them close by because a child will always have family to play with.
We are so excited to start our family! We have just been waiting for the opportunity to raise a child and introduce them to the world. We are committed to being the best parents we can possibly be, and to providing your child with the love, support, and space they need to grow.
We are looking forward to following your lead as it pertains to open adoption. Sharing pictures, updates and visits with you will be something we will always look forward to should you decide you want this. Your child will always know who you are and how much respect we have for you!
Thank you so much for letting us share who we are with you,
Mike and Cait